Any part of the surface of the skin can become sexually sensitized to touch. 

Some regions of the body are especially connected to sexual function.  They create sexual arousal when touched appropriately, and develop rage and fear when wrongly touched. 

These are the erogenous zones – the skin surfaces of sexual organs, inner thighs, lips, ear lobes, breasts, neck and shoulders especially.  When touched in an erotic way, they trigger arousal.

Sexual touch gives pleasure only when the partner responds with excitement and pleasure.

Exchanging roles of touching and receiving will help in learning excitement of stimulating the partner as well as responding to the stimulation.

Men, who watch pornographic videos or movies with sexually explicit content, expect screaming and moaning by the wife on sexual touching.

Most women are able to give such extreme expression of enjoying orgasm only when they really get it and that too when they are sure their voice will not be heard outside the room.

To express such response woman needs extreme intimate involvement in the sexual act and this comes only after having full trust and confidence in the partner. She also needs reassurance that the partner will not make fun of her or demean her in any manner, inside as well as outside the bedroom.

Giving such expression without emotionally wanting to, makes sexual act merely mechanical and may lead to gradual disinterest towards the sex.

At the same time, pleasing the husband by being open to such expression may enhance his performance and involvement with wife leading to loving relationship.

This pleasure is intentionally given to men by lover and even by sex workers to lure them into relationship outside marriage. 

Skin is the boundary wall between outer world and intimate relationship. It keeps signalling pleasure as well as pain.

Any touch that develops or is likely to develop sexual attraction, arousal or desire is ‘Sexual Touch’ whether the person touching intends the same or not.

For example, a simple pat on the back by a teacher could become sexual if the boy likes that attractive teacher.

Whereas, even when the boy and a girl or man and a woman are in close contact, regularly touch or brush against each other as friends or colleagues, there may not be sexual feeling or arousal in both.

In case of Sexual Abuse, the touch may or may not lead to sexual arousal, but the intention of the person abusing is sexual.

In case of sexual abuse of a child, the child may be innocent participant or may just like the touch or may allow touching out of fear.

Sexual touch may or may not be involving touching of private parts even in case of Sexual Abuse.

Anticipating a sexual touch or hoping for sexual touch can create tension whereas, welcoming touch creates relaxation and feeling of well-being.

When there is sexual intention, one touch may lead to another, resulting into chain of actions. Each touch may communicate wanting more or unwilling resistance,

Ultimate surrendering to touch occurs when couple engages in wilful sexual act.

One of the greatest pleasures of couple comes when they enjoy togetherness with fun and feelings of their childhood.

When in good mood and intimate environment, couples enjoy behaving like kids and do mock fights or pillow fights, and even laugh or scream.

Like playful puppies they would hug, roll over, chase each other, bite and scratch each other.

Simple rubbing of bodies against each other’s body even while fully dressed can ignite arousal for both.

And when they undress; both would explore each other’s body by touching and identify each other’s erotic zones.

These areas of stimulation and intensity in which they would give pleasure keeps changing. Hence, what one likes today may not be liked tomorrow.

Therefore, loving person keeps exploring fresh areas for stimulation. It is this variation in response which keeps the monotony of sexual life away.

The magic of sexual touch coupled with commitment ensures intimate long-term loving relationship.

Women tend to know their body from the other’s perspective.

Their feeling of being attractive or unattractive, sexual or not; depends on responses of people around them. Hence, in marital relations, they depend more on appreciation of partner along with feelings from within.

Emotional or physical sensation arising out of a touch or even just closeness can mean breaking of all safety barriers for a woman.

Hence, men who wish to have loving relationship must make their wife feel that they respect and accept her as she is.

Women being most common subject of sexual abuse, it takes time for accepting even their husband’s touch in the initial stages of married relationship. Most women hate such touching or express displeasure.

Hence, in marital relationship, men must categorically avoid groping of breasts or buttocks even if they are most tempted to and presumably the marriage allows them this freedom.

It takes couple of weeks of adjustments and acceptances before the wife would accept such touch and even smilingly enjoy it.

Key to sensual touching is to communicate love and intend intimacy.

Our skin sensors respond with lightning speed to identify the touch.

This is essential to keep us safe.

We are born with this sensory response to help us identify the intention of a person’s touch. However it also depends on the  surroundings, person’s body language and the context.

After ‘looking’ and ‘talking’ comes ‘touching’ which is the entry into the zone of intimacy.

Allowing a person to touch indicates acceptance to come closer, not necessarily with sexual intention. However, person being received may presume it as a sexual invitation.

Experienced offender may use the very same behaviour to lure a person for sexual relationship or to trap a victim especially in cases of sexual abuse.

When the touch gives feeling of wrong, it could generate danger signal, even though the person is not intending harm.

On the other hand when we feel nice on being touched, we are excited. It gives pleasure, encouragement and there is mixed feeling of anxiety and relaxation.

In short, who touches us matters as much as when, where, and why we are touched.

Initial period of intimacy starts with tiny movements towards coming closer like repeated casual touch, brushing fingers, sitting closer etc. At this tender movement, even holding of hand culminates into hundreds of sensual touches often experiences as an electric current.

The intensity of this first touch can even achieve full arousal in both man and woman, leading to erection and vaginal wetting.

For most, moment of first sexual touch lingers in mind for ever.

In marital relationship, one should never lose the excitement of touch.

The wish to touch, allowing partner to touch and the acceptance of touch keeps our mind and body sexually healthy.

Finding that you do not want to be touched communicates rejection or hatred towards the person.

Women are more sensitive to touch. Hence, touching plays important role in her arousal and sexual desire. They can get arousal even without touching of private parts.

For men as well as women, touch gives reassurance, builds trust, confidence and intimacy.

In relationship, touch also helps in relieving stress and building togetherness.

Women are most disappointed when men do not seem to like, respond or enjoy their touch as much as they loved to be touched.

Men do not necessarily respond to stroking, touching and holding in the same way as women appreciate.

Although some men learn to get pleasure of woman’s touch and caressing, most men only focus on sensation through the penis and demand intercourse which is more sexual act for them

Women get stimulated by whole body touching, while men keep themselves busy around sexual parts like breasts, thighs and between.

To make the marriage successful both must learn responses of each other by communicating and accommodating what each one likes or dislikes.

This learning needs extreme patience and couple can comes closer only after years of trial and error.

The result of this patience is of course priceless.